Don’t judge a book by its cover they say, well here comes another controversial post, what should a homosexual look like?
Looks can be deceptive in more ways than we can imagine. In this case a homosexual’s seemingly ‘odd’ appearance is being questioned.
A homosexual is a human, he or she has the right to look like anything they want as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone else. So its nobody’s business really.
A homosexual’s overall presentation and grooming could be as feminine or masculine as they want. They could lie anywhere on the gender scale that means there are no fixed rules about looks, it all depends on the mindset of the individual.
There are muscle-studs who could very well be homosexual, or so gracefully feminine that they had to call them trans-gender because they really were a woman in a man’s body. Then there are those who deny their sexuality and conform to social norms and codes of dressing to avoid fuss and resistance. This is the majority of homosexuals and lets face it they’re not gorgeous or model-like because for that you have to carry-off and not be pushed around like your looks don’t matter.
Some get so caught-up in the confusion surrounding them that they decide to alter themselves physically to match the feedback they’re getting from people around them. Hormones, feminization and SRS come next. I pity them really, I wouldn’t do that even though I have wanted to sometimes thinking I would lead a happy ‘normal’ life. But now I’m content living out and openly the way I want. A fancy haircut and unisex clothes is where I have learned to draw the line, anything more is over-the-top, a strict no-no for me. That doesn’t make me a bad person, but many people feel feminine is pure and that to me makes no sense. F**k them.
The truth is, no matter what homosexuals look like, they all want acceptance.
We also have homosexuals who are comfortable fitting into any role – man or woman alike. I like to place myself in this bracket, with some exceptions here or there even though androgyny is my thing really. We have stage-performers who will wear dress, makeup and elaborate costume for only the duration of the show, and we all know of the guy who would dance in front of the mirror pretending that the drape around his hair makes him a girl. These are humans, but if any day you get shocked by their appearance, don’t take it to heart because you have no idea what it is like to be in their shoes.
They’re not acting.
I hate it when they’re treated badly just because they look different.
That’s very sad if you ask me.
VERY true. I cannot claim to know what you feel, but it’s amazing how you’re so courageous, you’re bold enough to be proud of yourself and tell the world what you are. That’s so much more than can be said for the very peers who criticise you.
Somehow, I found your blog inspiring, in a way I cannot quite understand. But all I can say is, be the way you are, Rohit, because I think that is exactly what sets you apart from the judgment and the bias.
*Hugs*